Very, very interesting stuff. I was googling different opinions on the whole i don’t want to have kids theory because, well…..i don’t
believe i want to have children and people think that’s so weird. I don’t think it is. Frankly i like my body, my freedom, and i would rather not fret about another mouth to feed. The only thing that i REALLY disagreed with was the whole technology thing. I mean, i just think that we are suppose to advance as a society…and if a baby is premature, i don’t see any harm and helping it survive. I think that if they had those resources back then, they would use it. I think people are just careless and won’t realize the damage that they are doing to the enviornment until its too late. Again interesting post….a new perspective!

Let me pose a question that will illustrate my point. Who is being more selfish, the people who want kinds or the people who don’t want kids? The answer is *BOTH* of them are being selfish. What?!?! Shock! Horror! Yup it’s true. Both sets of people prioritized their own wants. That’s all it is. A want. Not a need, there’s a difference. *EVERYONE* is selfish. Yup, it’s true! Everyone prioritizes *their* own needs.
Let me ask another question for anyone who’s not on board yet. If you don’t pay your bills, do your laundry, and wipe your butt, then who will? The answer is noone will (we’ll exclude geriatrics here and assume we’re talking about adults who are capable of taking care of themselves). So is it selfish to pay your bills, do your laundry, and wipe your butt? Technically, yes it is. But that’s how things are.

You take care of yourself including your own opinions and wants. And wanting to have a kid is just a want, nothing more. And people who say that the people who don’t want kids are being selfish are actually, in fact, JUST as selfish for not being able to accept that someone lives their life with a different set of priorities and values. And that OPINION is just that as well. An opinion. It is not a fact that you need a kid. Or that people who don’t have them are not “growing up” or contributing to the world in some meaningful way. These are nothing more than opinions. They are not provable one way or the other. “You should have a kid” is an opinion. “You have no idea how great/crappy it is” is another opinion. Many of the people here can easily disprove such house-of-cards arguments. Besides, it’s always the people who are weakest in their own beliefs that need to get someone else to think as they do just to validate themselves.

I would actually more likely say that the person with a lot more free time and the guts to do what they want, society’s-whims-be-damned, would be a more likely candidate for contributing to society, if for nothing more than the fact that they actually have the free time to do it! But that’s just my opinion…

Also, some people’s contribution to the gene pool is just, quite frankly, crappy. I seriously wish that IQ tests were required before breeding was allowed. Yeah, a bit Brave New World-ish, I know but having a 6+ billion people gene pool of mostly idiots does not get me on fire to bring a child into this world. Shooting down all the idiotic things said to my hypothetical child every day when he comes home from school and tells me “so-and-so said ______” would become a full-time job. Not to mention I probably would not be too popular with the child’s teachers and peers (and peer’s parents) when my reply to the afformentioned idiotic statement is “Yeah, well, so-and-so has an intelligence deficit”.

I bet Darwin is rolling in his grave from not anticipating medical technology combined with whimsical human emotions that lead to keeping the weak alive.

Another reason why I am not dying to have kids is that it seems that parents today do not raise their own children. It seems that the grandparents, nannies and daycare does that. So my question is: Why do you want children if you cannot even raise them. It sounds harsh, but if you can’t raise them, don’t have them. My mother raises my niece full time becuase my sister and her husband both have to work and they can’t afford afford daycare.

So am I being selfish with my views? Perhaps. I am not perfect. But I think parents with children can be just as selfish, especially when they would rather have their own flesh and blook than adopt a child in need.

So, yes, I am a girl in her late twenties who doesn’t want to have kids. I love taking care of my niece but after helping my mother raise her, I realized that raising a child is not what it is cracked up to be.

I love my two birds. Sure they won’t take care of me when I am old or they will never go out in the world and succed with this or that. But I know they love me and I don’t have to worry about them getting mixed up with unprotected sex, drugs, alcohol abuse, and crime. My family thinks I am weird becuase I treat them like children but that’s just me.

Ok, I hope this post isn’t too long

I found this website after searching google for the term “I don’t want kids”, because as you may have guessed, I do not.

I have lived with a woman who has had children. It throws a really strange dynamic into the relationship. …this dynamic seems to actually be perpetuated by what I see on television too - as if a man’s desires are now some sort of punchline and that they should be repressed. (Why are men so frequently now portrayed as stupid, droning, food motivated morons?)

Sex: It had to be mentioned. Why? because it’s the whole reason any guy even started a conversation with a girl to begin with. …Well, having kids around adds a heap of new reasons why you won’t be getting any. Considering a venture outside of the marriage for the affection that you so crave? Forget it - you will crucified for your infidelity and you will forfeit most of everything and half of the rest. …Not to mention your kid will never understand that your wife was a cold fish - and he will blame you unendingly throughout his childhood. Then he’ll get married, face the same situation, and blame his infidelity on you as well.

Money: Oh, you used to have some? Fantastic, because junior over there needs a new trumpet that he can ceaselessly aggravate you and the neighbors with and then completely ignore to collect dust. — Let’s also continue to bear in mind that the reason you worked so hard throughout school and your career was so that you could have the joy of forgoing all of your incentives. That new motorcycle?? You don’t ‘Need’ that. What you ‘Need’ is to take your cold, unaffectionate wife and ungrateful offspring on a vacation. That’s what you need. During travel and upon arrival they will complain ad nasuem about everything from the weather, to the travel, to the food and fill you in on where they’d have rather gone. Fantastic.

Marriage and children are the ‘One Two’ punch that will knock the happiness and individuality out of your life for a very long time.

I highly recommend to any guys who read this to Go to the gym, keep yourself in shape (marketable), date casually, buy whatever the heck you want, get your booty calls when you need them and form lasting friendships with certain women (sex with others), but do not try to make it go further. Cohabitation and marriage are inviting a disaster into your life. If you find that this has already happened, and you feel hopeless - take heart.

Eventually everyone dies. Don’t do it yourself, however, you would be blamed for that as well.

Cheers!

I told my wife about your comment regarding not being into dolls or baby stuff. She was the same, despite the number of stuffed toys she still owns
It’s great to see a young person with firm beliefs and the self-respect to stand by them, rather than conform with societal expectations and perceived ‘norms’. Many adults still don’t manage that!